tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311151968716514867.post8082553067833408169..comments2023-09-06T08:23:46.896-07:00Comments on oreneta aground (but missinaibi's afloat!): Kissing Catalansorenetahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10616103982088424715noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311151968716514867.post-17987378587751743682010-04-19T03:38:59.212-07:002010-04-19T03:38:59.212-07:00well, I suppose people would have a right to be of...well, I suppose people would have a right to be offended if you consider them "creepy" ;).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311151968716514867.post-14241608500187955802010-04-09T14:51:23.739-07:002010-04-09T14:51:23.739-07:00Sooooo that means I have to let ANYONE kiss me? W...Sooooo that means I have to let ANYONE kiss me? What if it's feels really creepy??????orenetahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616103982088424715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311151968716514867.post-64214289212107274572010-04-09T14:47:22.307-07:002010-04-09T14:47:22.307-07:00Rule #3: Foreigners don't initiate the process...Rule #3: Foreigners don't initiate the process. So you're not supposed to break the rules. Worst case scenario, you don't kiss people when it would have been socially acceptable, and you get away with it, "because it is not expected of you to know that you were supposed to do it in this very particular situation, shame on the local".<br />Also, if you back out when a local initiates, they are allowed to be offended.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311151968716514867.post-27897709378111335082010-03-22T14:46:24.834-07:002010-03-22T14:46:24.834-07:00Kate! I was hoping you'd wade into the debate...Kate! I was hoping you'd wade into the debate! There are so many variations and personal preferences.....a mine field for the unwary. Do you think my process of simply doing as the romans, so to speak, is a sound one?????orenetahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616103982088424715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311151968716514867.post-1445969324392999752010-03-22T14:36:48.788-07:002010-03-22T14:36:48.788-07:00No time to comment in detail now, but this is an i...No time to comment in detail now, but this is an issue that has plagued me greatly. I have developed my own theories on the rules (pretty close to what you mentioned, though there are plenty of exceptions...)<br /><br />The only thing I will add is that my MIL does the kiss kiss thing when someone gives her a gift (and directs the kids to do this as well.) Though young kids here only do one kiss, not two. <br /><br />And apparently in Spanish families (or at least in hers) there is the tradition of not only kissing family members goodnight (not on the lips) but also good morning. I just find that a bit much-- not too keen on kissing before morning ablutions are performed, for one thing. So I don't. But I have seen here do it with her grown children.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16975826433125245969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311151968716514867.post-57854199045019684742010-03-20T12:34:22.725-07:002010-03-20T12:34:22.725-07:00ElP, how strict are these rules, what are the impl...ElP, how strict are these rules, what are the implications of people, who should no better unlike me, breaking them? Forward? I imagine there are some differences in the Catalan/French rules, but that seems pretty clear.<br /><br />Mmichele: There are spots that do a quadruple kiss, I believe Poland does, though I'm not sure. It would start to take up a lot of your time, no?orenetahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616103982088424715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311151968716514867.post-18051439465684793122010-03-19T16:49:09.575-07:002010-03-19T16:49:09.575-07:00LOVE this. In Holland, they generally kiss kiss ki...LOVE this. In Holland, they generally kiss kiss kiss. And I think you are allowed to kiss in thanks for a gift or in an effusive moment. Of course, all our mistakes are written off because we are Canadians.<br /><br />I am going to ask my CanaDutch blogging friend about this.mmichelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06400779291547414615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311151968716514867.post-29666984566987050642010-03-19T10:23:52.766-07:002010-03-19T10:23:52.766-07:00I've often been asked how this thing works by ...I've often been asked how this thing works by Canadian people surprised by this (we do it in France, too).<br /><br />That's a very complicated set of rules you have. I'd cut it down for:<br />1) only for greeting / goodbye, and when either:<br /> - at least one woman/close friend/relative is involved.<br /> - two gay men are involved<br />2) apply the kiss-kiss to people you'd hug if you were in Canada.<br /><br />There.<br /><br />1) rules out the Birthday situation.<br />2) rules out the professional and men-to-men situations.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com