Sunday, February 10, 2008
Wouldn't it be lovely if there were a simple rule book for tough ethical decision, one that covered most eventualities?
For ethical reasons I cannot go into any details here in this public forum, but I find myself in a bind. I have been asked for advice in a situation in which I feel unsure about my right to advise. When should we not feel unsure about our right to advise....maybe, carefully, as a parent....sometimes as a spouse, occasionally, very occasionally, as a friend.
In fact we are given any number of guides; from that simple golden rule on up to the prayers and writings of any religion you care to name.
I am still wary of the bind I face between my reaction as a human and my responsibilities.
This is turning into a tough post to write, one I may delete at the end, or one that I may alter beyond recognition before I hit that little red 'publish post' button.
I am a Bahá'í and that provides guidance.
I am a human, and know in my heart what I should do.
I am also a outside of the situation, and there is the nub, which hat fits on top? Which tips the balance of a decision.
It would be so neat if we could weave together the hats we wear, parent, human, spouse, professional, friend, trusted acquaintance; like the Egyptian gods of old with their crown of upper and lower Egypt, and their God stature, and mace of power.
It is not that simple.
I have yet to work out how to handle the situation. I am always uneasy when asked what I would do, when asked what someone else should do. I prefer to be a sounding board where they can bounce ideas, where people can begin to formulate in their own minds what they need to do....it is their decision, not mine.
This one seems cut and dried, to me, the only question is whether I can or should say what I believe.
If you wanted, I would be interested to hear from anyone else out there faced with a tough ethical decision, and what they did.
Can't say it would change what I will do, but I would be interested to hear.
This one will take some thinking, and some gnawing over. We'll see, though I may not be able to let you know a whole lot.
It's never dull.